Healing with Patrica
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Healing with Patrica
Holiday Time.....the Time to Practice What You Preach
So the Christmas season has arrived once more to test our patience. Starting with the earlier Black Friday we are all in a rush to buy ourselves silly, so we can add to our mounting hoard of possessions. We go to sleep at night fretting from all the I wants, not enough money, getting the decorations up, wrapping the packages, who do I get what, should we invite the Jone's, oh Aunt Bessie will be here with her dogs, who will sleep where, how will I get it all done in time, etc. The "to do" list is a mile long. With all this turmoil and worry how is a person supposed to enjoy this special holiday? There is so much to be done it boggles the mind. Somewhere in all this confusion of thought we have to take time to really enjoy the coming together of family and friends. This is a prime opportunity to put all we have learned spiritually to the test.
Beyond the magic of the Christmas season are the "issues" it inevitably brings once again to the surface. The sense of familial obligation, the lingering resentments and bitterness among family members, the competitions and rivalry of siblings, the fears of disappointments, just to mention a few. For many it is a stressful no win situation. On the surface we all play our roles and hope to keep our tempers in check and our hearts whole and unbroken. It all sounds really negative doesn't it? It is, it really is.
All year long we have walked our spiritual path and feel as if we have made great strides, but have we really? Will this year be different from years past? That is entirely up to you. This year we get to see how much we have really grown. After all there is only a "problem" if we make it a "problem".
The spiritual goal we have been striving towards is about "love", living with an open heart that allows us to love and be loved. That love is all inclusive, it is of the Divine. There is not any instance that supercedes it. It is not a love full of conditions and excuses. That even means loving the rapist or the murderer because they have had their pain too. Loving inclusively is not like "being" in love, its two different things. Loving at that level is not easy. I imagine your question is how do we do that. The first step as always is the recognition that no one is to blame for your emotions. We all have the free will to experience our emotions any way we choose, but so long as we are saving up our bitterness, resentments, and hurts we flounder in being able to love divinely. So long as our love has conditions laid on it and we treat it like striking a bargain, (I'll love them IF), we have not reached our goal.
It took me so long to finally accept all my resentments as my own problem. I spent so much time being bitter over what could have been instead of loving who I am today. When I finally stopped blaming my family and the past it came in a moment of abject saddness. It was a glorious surrender. I suddenly fell into a space of incredible love and gratitude. I realized that these people loved me even if I didn't understand their love. It was like being hit over the head with a heavy object. Suddenly I realized what I had always taken as criticism was really just their way of caring. Everything was crystal clear and all the bitterness fell away and was replaced with a love and peace I had never felt before. It was permanent. To this day that love doesn't falter.
This year is a year of transformation, a moving into a new way of being in the world. It's an opportunity to stop thinking we are always right and it's our way or no way. The world is so full of different beliefs and cultures, all of them special in their own way, but something they all hold in common is loving those they care about. I hope this year we are all able to reach deep down inside ourselves and discover the depth of love that is just waiting to overwhelm us.
Love always, trica
Mothers and Daughters........Friends or Foes
Our mothers are the single most important person in our lives. They are who we judge ourselves by. Yuck, no one wants to hear that do they? I sure didn't when I first heard it. For many women their mothers are their best friends, but for many others their mother is the enemy. They can bring out the best in us or the absolute worst. It is a love/ hate relationship. For many a truce or forgiveness never happens, but for others understanding can bring a rich closeness that is uncomparable to any other relationship we may have.
When we are children this woman is the bane of our existence. Nothing we do is right, and nothing brings her approval. This woman that we so completely trusted as a babe blew that trust somewhere along the line of growing up and we are angry about it. Where we once felt safe and loved we now feel betrayed and unsafe. What kind of mother is that? A bad one to be sure or we would feel loved and secure. For every upset or tragedy that affected our childhood we ultimately lay the blame at her feet. This woman is our MOTHER who is supposed to be all knowing, loving and wise. She should have been our protector from every bad scrap we got into. Like being a mother came with a manual. Many women resolve this, but sometimes even after we ourselves have had children we still haven't figured out the sacrifice our mothers made.
Mothers live the legacy left by their mothers, and their mothers, and their mothers, on back into time. They did not get manuals on how to be perfect, nor were they told all the secrets to what works on different kinds of childrens personalities. We didn't arrive in their lives with directions pinned to our backs telling them "how" we need to be loved and protected. I mean gee we are all different, what works for one doesn't work for another. When they were young they experienced the same thing you may have experienced, shared the same upsets and disappointments, felt unloved or unwanted or misunderstood or felt ashamed. Those experiences and society made them into the mothers they are today. That doesn't mean they didn't try their best cause they did, nor does it mean they didn't love you, because they do. Each person in any given moment is doing their best. They may not be living up to their best potential, but they are doing the best that they can based on the knowledge they possess at the time.
Then we say, NO, she could have done better. No, she couldn't or she would have. Its that simple. Taking their whole life into account, at the time, our mothers made the best decisions they were capable of, be it right or wrong. As a child we might throw a fit and scream that isn't acceptable, but as an adult it is wise for us to look a bit deeper than just "our" feelings. It is so much easier for us to blame everything we are on our mothers. Afterall if we didn't blame them we would have to own our problems and solve them for ourselves. It's much more fun to blame isn't it?
If we understand our mother did their best in raising us we might learn a bit about compassion and self-accountability. We would have to recognize they aren't capable of living up to our "expectations" on what love means to us individually and that only we can love ourselves as we need to be loved. We would have to understand our mothers way of loving even if it doesn't fit our definition of loving. We would understand she is only human and subject to her own wants and needs depending on her life situation. There are so many moments in a child's life and mothers can't read our minds to know which exact moment is going to mess us up. What may have been a horrible situation with profound after effects for us may have been a causal moment for our mothers. A mother doesn't have all the answers. Do you like to be blamed for things that you didn't know or understand at the time? Are you error free? Are all your decisions the best decisions? No they aren't.
So we come down to this...its just easier to stay angry and throw blame instead of being compassionate, forgiving and understanding. It's easier to live in the little black box world of blame. It isn't that we have to like or condone the things that happened, we don't. We just have to understand how it came about and that we can take the high road and forgive.
Our mothers are perfect mirrors of ourselves. They give us one of the greatest gifts there is to give. They give us the opportunity to look at ourselves, to focus on who, what, and how we want to be in the world. The woman who has owned her life, assumed responsibility for her happiness, shown forgiveness is a woman who has a healthy relationship with herself. This is also a woman who accepts her mother, understands she did her best with the tools she had and has moved away from blame and bitterness. It is a choice we all get to make. Will we spend our lives a miserable victim and too afraid to be the best we can be? Or will we make a choice to see commonsense and partake of the greatest relationship we have in our lives? When you have a daughter what would you want your daughter to do?
Love comes in as many shades as there are people in the world. What is love to one person isn't love to another. The only person who can love us as we need to be loved is ourselves and Creator. It is the only perfect love we can recognize. The love between mother and daughter is precious beyond belief.
Nov/2012
RISK.......Is a Powerful Spiritual Word
Home from the summer journey.
Six weeks of travel this year. I must admit the moment I pulled in and parked, exited my car and shut its door I sighed a sigh of gratitude for my safe arrival home. This was by far my most momentous trip. So many people in so many variations of change. I enjoyed every moment, but at the same time it moved so fast and so furiously that its a blur for me to see the whole picture at one time. I feel like I have all these little compartments in my mind holding the journeys, emotions, fears and pains of so many people and my empathy for their plights is so heartfelt and present within me. Yet there was so much growth and accomplishment from everyone over the last year I was amazed at your progress. I hope in some way I was able to bring some more peace and relief into all your lives this year. You may not know it, but at the same time you were moving through your transformation I too was going through my own transformation. It was confusing and uncomfortable as always but the results took me one step closer to fully knowing myself. The more I know "me" the more I can give back to you.
Its funny how it works you know. We each surrender to our inner self/source/god and that surrender manifests outward in our actions in the world. The clearer, cleaner we get inside the more we are able to give of ourselves to others. It is an amazing realization to have and understand.
I want to thank all the people who gave me space to rest, promoted me to the friends they wanted to know or experience me and those who just graced my life with us spending time together. Thank you for generously opening your homes to my sister, Zsia and myself. I am grateful to have you in my life and honored to share in yours. I still did not get the chance to see some very important people in my life, Janet, JByrd, Erika, Stephen, Anna, Susan, Myra and a few others. I am sad we did not get to see one another, you are in my thoughts my friends.
RISK
Definition: noun
a situation involving exposure to danger:
the possibility that something unpleasant or unwelcome will happen:
a person or thing regarded as likely to turn out well or badly, as specified, in a particular context or respect:
a person or thing regarded as a threat or likely source of danger:
a possibility of harm or damage against which something is insured:
the possibility of financial loss:
verb
expose someone or something valued to danger, harm, or loss:
act or fail to act in such a way as to bring about the possibility of an unpleasant or unwelcome event:
incur the chance of unfortunate consequences by engaging in an action:
Risk is a clever word. It sounds so ominous in many ways. And the way the definition reads is confusing, or one immediately thinks of just the written words instead of their real meaning. Simply put, risk has a price attached to it, the facing of a fear, which might or might not have the desired positive result. In the case of spiritual growth the facing of those fears usually means the letting go of something, like, control. It means putting yourself in the position of literally jumping off the side of the cliff trusting that your wings will see you safely to the ground.
So these are all just words, but what do they mean in your life? Well, what are you afraid of most? I would suggest it is losing control of your life. We are constantly seeking ways in which we can control our careers, our finances, our spiritual growth, our natural talents, our bodies, minds, nature, EARTH, our relationships with one another. The more we try to control life the higher our stress level and anxiety level goes. The more we strive for control of our whole life environment the less we have of that control. We do all this, so we can feel SAFE. Another very powerful word since everything we do is geared to achieve that state. The problem is that the more control you "think" you have the less your really have. The only time you are truly safe is when you have taken your risks, faced your fears, and have learned to trust in yourself.
It is at this juncture where people usually say, ok I can't hear this, it goes against everything I have been taught my whole life. This is crazy. Trica I just can't let everything go, I have to live. Yes but what I am telling you is that until you do learn how to face those fears and take those risks you absolutely will not EVER feel safe and really live. No matter what material safety you think you have in place around you it is never enough. In fact the more a person has materially the less trust they have in themselves or others. They become empty shells thinking they have it all.............but their lives are full of fear and distrust of everyone around them.
Lets look at love for example. I am assuming that all those reading this believe that love is the highest expression in life and something we all seek. The goal in our life is learning to love unconditionally. I hear all the time from people that they love unconditionally but yet that love has limitations or conditions attached to it. Loving unconditionally is not an easy thing to do, it means having total acceptance of others. To totally accept another one must first accept themselves. The first time we love we love completely, our heart is totally open and exposed, then perhaps we get hurt, and our heart closes down in pain. It has a scar. The next time we love we don't love so openly and completely as we did the first time. Again we get hurt, and we have another scar. This goes on in our life over and over, and each time we love less and less, but our goal in life is to learn how to love unconditionally. Well we can't learn to love unconditionally if we have so many scars we can barely love at all.
Each time we have the opportunity to love we face the fear of being hurt. It is a risk. Can we face the fear and open our heart completely or will those scars cripple that love? If a person can understand that, since they have already been hurt many times and survived it okay they can "trust" that they can risk to love completely unreserved and unconditional. With each opportunity that we risk and love unabashed our ability to love unconditional increases. How many places in your life is love conditional? There are no "if and buts" in loving unconditional. There is only over coming your fear of being hurt and taking the risk to love.
Risk is such a clever word, and it is one we like to avoid at all costs because it means looking at our inner selves. It is so much easier to lay blame or have excuses to avoid it. Taking risks truly equates to building self-trust and having self-acceptance. On this spiritual journey we have started upon self-love and self-acceptance are the goals we seek to reach, so we can love at the highest expression of the word, unconditionally.
Gathering Events
THE GATHERINGS 2012
with Patrica Ferguson
When people
of like mind gather together something special happens. The air becomes charged with subtle energies
that open pathways into insight and knowledge that has escaped us for longer
than we care to admit. Gatherings bring knowledge,
solutions, oneness, energy, empowerment, and direction. But…more than anything else they bring us
love and healing.
I have been
doing this kind of work for many years and have donated the last 12 years
solely to helping people find their way spiritually, emotionally and
physically. We learn so much when
exposed to different perspectives and these Gatherings are just that, a chance
to hear about spirituality from a different direction in the hopes that you
will hear the perfect thing to expand your awareness and your life.
The floor
will be open to any question dealing with the expansion of your mind, body, and
soul.
July 15th, Home of Michele & Lee Veium 202 W Hilton
Dr., Boulder Creek. Please RSVP at 831.345.6511
July 22nd, Hosted by Jan Wershila at the
home of Linda Silva
1920 Edgewood Ln in Walnut Creek. Jan can be reached at:
925.381.9304 or 925.754.5997 Please RSVP
Aug. 4th, Home of Jeannie and Daryl Schwald, 244 W. Hilton Dr. Boulder Creek, Please RSVP at 832.703.4376 408.728.2219
Please bring a dish for a brunch potluck.
START: 11:00 till 5:30 PM
Gathering
fees: $50.
Private
sessions: $150. (if there is a hardship
talk to me about it)
For private
sessions please call Patrica Ferguson directly at 925.381.6674
Patrica Ferguson’s
Personal Bio
I started
having Psychic experiences at a very young age.
They were confusing and awesome at the same time. I just seemed to know things others didn’t. This set me apart from the every day world
and as time passed evolved into my life’s purpose of sharing my knowledge and
abilities with as many people as I can while staying true to my own souls
path. Supporting people to reach their
highest level of personal growth and health is my passion.
My connection
with source has encouraged me to trust in the information I receive, the
abilities I have and to use it wisely. I
have had three mentors who all found me and have guided my growth and still share
in that growth. A couple decades ago I surrendered
and left the corporate world and started a life dedicated to Source. It is uncomfortable tooting ones own horn but
I am a motivator, mentor, a transformational healer of the mind body and soul, spiritual
adviser and counselor. Human relations
and healing are my strongest talents. I
use them to help people discover and achieve their greatest potential to awaken
their own gifts and learn to expand them.
I have chosen
to follow a very nontraditional pure path into enlightenment. I strongly
believe that the people who need me in their lives will find their way to me
via word of mouth. Nothing is more
exciting than to watch a person transform before my very eyes into an awakened
soul fulfilling their dreams.
If this bio
feels right to you please feel free to contact me. Group gathering are great for brainstorming
and connection. One on one provides deep
personal soul work.
I currently reside in Nebraska but phone sessions
are very successful all over the world.
Please contact Patrica Ferguson at 925.381.6674
Patrica Feguson 2012
Spirituality and the Values of Life 2012
Current Event
Hello Soul searchers, we meet again.
Once more summer has arrived and I will be making my yearly sojourn to the beautiful Bay Area of San Francisco. My plan this year is to spend a month letting spirit flow so I am able to share and be shared by as many wonderful people as possible. I have considered having a couple days spent in nature gatherings to break bread and discuss whatever your heart needs to know, a question and answer day. We are all in such different spaces in our growth that it doesn't serve for me to have just one topic to present. There are so many questions for so many situations and an open forum works so well. Not everyone may be having one particular issue but the revisiting of many topics is always enlightening and validating.
I have not set any dates yet and wait to hear if anyone has an idea or would like to host a gathering. Please let me know.
My California dates are:
July 9th, 2012 - Aug 9th, 2012
For those wanting sessions please let me know soon as I am filling out my schedule now, the more I have in place before I arrive the easier it is on me and the wonderful people who take care of me when I am there. This is an opportunity to take advantage of for those who enjoy the one on one sessions. This is something I try to provide everyone each year. Your patronage not only benefits your spiritual growth and physical health but also brings needed prosperity into my life that allows me to make these long cross country trips. Please feel free to share this with your friends.
Sessions fees: $150 If there is a hardship we can discuss it.
Gathering fees: $50.00 plus bring a dish to shareGatherings will be about 6 hours
My sister Linda will be coming with me again this year for a couple weeks, we had such a good time last year and I so enjoyed sharing my amazing life with her. She must have enjoyed herself because she wants to come again!!
Patrica Ferguson
925.381.6674
As I move into to this I want to offer you a challenge to really reflect on what I am talking about, think, see if you are able to see a different perspective and let some part of it push you further along your path. Open that wonderful heart of yours so you can hear this. 
Spirituality and the Values of Life
I haven't written in a long while, nearly a year. I have been learning, yeah, like it ever stops (laughing). I notice the further I move along my path the less I have to say because to be honest I just don't have the language to language it. You would think after all this time I would have written a couple books and be writing everyday but it hasn't worked out that way at all. The information is out there in every shade imaginable and I don't feel the need to get on that particular path. So I relax and write when inspired. This year I have been waiting for that moment of inspiration to hit me and since I have actually sat down and started this it must be the moment I was waiting for. So lets see how this goes.
Over this last year many new questions have come up for me. Having moved from the Bay Area to Flagstaff, Arizona was a real culture shock but the move from there to here in Blue Hill, Nebraska has been an even bigger shock. To move from very liberal to semi liberal to very conservative persuasions of life has thrown me for a loop and things I have taken for granted for a long while are suddenly in my face and I have had to re-evaluate my understanding. Typically more a conservative I find myself here to be pretty liberal in my thinking considering my present surroundings. It has made me question if, in my state of being neutral, am I really? I have had to do some adjusting in a big way. On the subjects of organized religion, women's rights, and healing modalities my head has been in a whirl of confusion at times. I am seeing how life is like one of those connect the dot pictures one plays on the placemat in a restaurant. It is funny how in the causes we take on as citizens so many of the dots are left disconnected. In my brain this is not easy to decipher since I am a connect ALL the dots kinda woman. As time has gone by though I have had more life experience, gained more knowledge and become more tolerant. I want to write about my observations.
Spirituality: Of, relating to, or affecting the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things. Not concerned with material values or pursuits.
Of, or pertaining to religion or religious belief.
What I know to be true in the world is not really true and is constantly changing and being revised. In all this world I have found only one thing to be true and that is that there is a Source/Spirit/God/Goddess (whatever name you choose to give it), that has created this playground. It can't be denied, it can be seen in the precision of creation in every living thing on this planet. It is an unexplainable something that has created our world and the universe. That after our creation we may have been continually evolving is not hard to understand but that doesn't deny being created. Life is life and I just can't see it being a random happening. Is it like all the religions and scientists or society thinks it is? Highly unlikely. At some point maybe man will be smart enough to figure it out but that is probably a very long way off. Personally I feel it is obvious that in all our discoveries we are just re-engineering something that has already been engineered. There is an explanation for literally everything in existence, its just a matter of having enough knowledge to understand it, for example, magic is only magic till a person understands how the trick is done or the unknown is only unknown till someone "knows" it.
Do you realize that for every pair of socks in the world there is that many belief systems? Each of those beliefs holds a claim of absolute legitimacy, be it science, religion, politics, demographics, race, culture, gender and we will kill to protect those beliefs. We will instill fear, promise salvation, torture, discriminate, hate, pass judgement, abuse, ostracize and those who postulate those beliefs usually have power and money at its root. It is my belief that if the belief system has money and power at its root inevitably it becomes corrupted. Even though this is my truth that does not mean that all those beliefs don't make the world go round. Nor does it mean that a person can't reach their spiritual pinnacle inside those beliefs either, because they absolutely can and do. Each of us knows what feels right for our life, there is no right or wrong to it. We can only understand something, anything, from the well of our own personal life experiences.
So long as a person can question, (which life demands of us), have the ability for discernment and can be open to new information their soul will continue its spiritual journey. The spiritual journey is an internal quest and our conscious reality is just a catalyst for that inner growth. The journey stagnates when we get lost in all the things I mentioned above. When we lose the ability to question and blindly accept what we are told our growth stops. For thousands of years man (power) has tried to push everyone to be the same, talk the same, act the same. Individuality or being different in any way was a cause to be put to death, yet it is our individuality and the sharing of all our ideas that allows humanity to gather knowledge, progress. It is no wonder it is taking us so long to figure things out.
You know what our problem is?? Simply put, we are ignorant, pityingly so. We lack knowledge and just knowing that should humble us beyond measure. Its like we are innocents bungling along and know not the damage that we do, to ourselves and to others. It is sad to watch people so strong in their beliefs that they automatically dismiss (adamantly dismiss), out of hand anything that does not agree with their belief system out of fear of something new.
Basically, our spiritual journey has little to do with our life values and everything to do with those values. We can't have one without the other. The knowledge we gather relates to self-discovery, or should. None of it should be easily dismissed, it should be examined and ran through your inner filters of what you know to be true in your life, not what someone has told you is true. There is a very strong need to discover your "own" truth, we can never know enough, nothing is absolute. The moment we accept something as absolute our growth stops. I wouldn't be surprised to learn the world is something much more than just a round rock in the future.
I believe after all these years of studying and learning and growing that our spirituality is not just our trying to picking the right belief and then handing the responsibility for our lives over to some unseen entity, entities, or organizations, its much more than that. For most of my life I have asked myself how people come to believe as they do. It holds great interest for me. I discovered it was family values and traditions, life experiences, desperation, tragedies, loneliness, depressions, despair, death, social acceptance, confusion, all of these things lead us to our belief systems. It is as if at some point our load becomes too heavy to bear and we surrender to whatever belief without questioning it for after all it has temporarily saved us from our plight. It is as if we don blinders and can no longer "see" beyond the belief that has rescued us. It is not that I feel this is wrong it is just that because we have been rescued it does not mean that we should no longer search, question, discern and learn. I am a total believer and live in surrender to Source/Spirit/God/Goddess but that does not mean that I can stop searching, learning, relearning and progressing my spirituality. In my world Source/Spirit/God/Goddess, has given me the ability to discover the truth of who, what, and why I exist. We all have that ability. For me Source is benign. It is not controlling or vengeful or egotistical. It isn't a battle, or power hungry. Source wants me to learn and grow, aspiring to become the loving energetic being that I am. It is to discover our totality. It is very hard to do that if I am caught in a close ended belief system that repudiates me for questioning its tenets or requirements and uses fear of reprisal to control me.
I hope I have given you all something to consider, a new perspective of seeing this journey you are on.
I really look forward to seeing all of you and perhaps meeting many more who wish to partake of this kind of information and healing. It will be good to see everyone, I really miss my California circle of friends.
Please respond and tell me your thoughts, I am always excited to hear other perspectives, I grow from it.
See you in July, please schedule as soon as you can.............Excitement is in the air!!!
July in San Francisco
San Francisco Trip
Hi Everyone!!
Exciting news, my sister Linda and I are making a trip to the Bay Area! I can't wait to see everyone, I have really missed you all!
It was a very eventful winter what with my move to Nebraska and my dad passing on to his next adventure. Its time to come back to the place and people that fill me up and love me so unconditionally as I do them. What's really cool is that my sister will get to meet some of the awesome people in my life and see what my life was like while living in California.
This trip will be a short 10 days but I am going to squeeze everything I can into it. I will be arriving on July 20th and staying through Aug 1st, 2011. Like usual I will start out in the Walnut Creek area and end up down by Santa Cruz.
I had not planned on this trip being a working trip but I realize I have people who prefer to work together in person so if any of you want to schedule time together please let me know so I can prebook it. I am always honored when I get to share in your life journey. Helping people find the tools and have the release they need to create the life they seek is always the focus of my life. What a blessing not only to be in your lives but to have you in mine.
Wow I am SOOOOO excited to see all of you!!!
Lets talk and make a plan to get together..........Love, trica
925.381.6674
Vibrational Frequency is WHAT!!!
Vibrational Frequency
The buzz word of the new language paradigm.
So the question was put to me about how does a person stay in high vibrational frequency to manifest what they want in their life. It was a good question because many people feel their frequency can fluctuate up and down on a daily basis. Well, simply put we don't fluctuate that much. We are constantly evolving and if you started at rung #1 on the ladder and have evolved to rung #25 you may backside one or two rungs or jump ahead a rung or two but you won't ever go back to the first rung and hopefully you'll keep moving upward. The higher the rung the less you experience the hang ups and negative emotions of the lower rungs. It is confronting your life experiences that move you upward. Now how far a person may progress on their ladder in their lives is purely up to them, it is a slow ever evolving process.
You know everything in the universe can be explained as molecular vibration. It is a very complicated scientific explanation that really just confuses the issue because it isn't language the everyday person grasps. Even so it is very exciting to hear someone talk about it. It's become an exciting buzz word that obscures understanding. Gee even the people who are really wrapped up in the concept don't understand how to actually implement the process into their lives. This New Age lingo just serves to confuse the issue in reality. It sounds pretty and mystical but doesn't really describe what it means in real life. Basically your vibrational frequency is another way to describe your EMOTIONAL MATURITY. Now those are two words people can wrap their heads around. They may not want to and may find it boring but it is the truth.
Emotional Maturity........The goal of reaching inner peace comes with emotional maturity. What does an emotionally mature life look like?
There are no emotions of hate
No pent up resentments
No hatefulness
There is 'allowance' of others to live their lives
There is no prejudice
A person is accountable for their emotions and their life
No road rage
No deep seated anger
There is no blaming or using others as an excuse for not being a successful human being
There is no pettiness and revenge
No spiteful behavior
No bitterness
No lying to the self
No passing the buck
No excuses for who you are
No shame or guilt
No Defensiveness
No blatant lying
No slandering
No backstabbing
No self hate
No browbeating or abuse to the self or others
No cruelty
No judgement (I am better than you stuff)
No pity parties or whining
There has been total forgiving of the self and others
No competition trying to be better than someone else, you only compete with yourself
No scamming others
There is respect of self and all life in general
A high vibrating, high frequency, emotionally mature person is free of all those things listed above. Gee isn't that easier than some of the mumbo jumbo being spouted around out there? At least now you have a simple list telling you what you need to clear in your life to manifest your desires. A list that I am pretty darn sure will bring that inner happiness we all seek. The more issues you master the closer you are to being and feeling whole, the healthier your body mind and soul will be.
There is another concept to consider though. The human experience is wrapped in our ability to express our emotions and while the ultimate goal may seem to be one with God/Source its the climb that enriches our lives. We don't want to grow into a place of apathy or jadedness. There is balance to everything. A full vibrant life enriched with our emotions allows us to experience joy to its fullest. Life is our playground to experience it all.
Self Value and Our Moral Boundary
Self Value.....Our Moral Boundaries
What is self value? It is a belief that we have about our own self worth. It is about how we judge ourselves as individuals within our societal environment. Self worth is also related to self-esteem, self-trust, and back to that creation point of the core barrier and the fear of facing ourselves. How do we come to a belief that we aren't good enough?
Even though I believe there is an inherent belief that the reason some humans feel like they aren't good enough stems from that separation from God idea I also believe there other contributing factors. One of the main factors is how we set our moral boundaries.
The Moral Boundary
Every individual has their own moral boundary. It is created out of our childhood experience and societies norms and mores. Because of our individual experience we all have a particular belief that suits our life. Society is a constantly changing beast in its own right and as it evolves the societal norm evolves or devolves with it. Out of that evolution comes our own particular moral mindset. The expectations that our parents and society had of us help to shape that morality.
When we cross our moral boundary of what we "internally" believe to be right and wrong we experience guilt. If we continue to cross it and don't deal with the guilt at the time not only does our self worth deteriorate but it also creates our disorders and diseases later in life. It is very difficult for us as individuals to change that moral boundary even if we think its wrong or have knowledge that proves it invalid. It is one of those situations of "it is what it is" and just has to be accepted.
Every time a person crosses that boundary they feel guilt for what they have done. It is that experience of feeling guilty that lowers the self worth/value. It is like an alarm going off inside you warning that you are now damaging yourself. It is one of those situations when forgiving yourself is important and a conscious decision is needed from you to never do such and such again. It is irrelevant what the current society lives by, society is too fickle to offer a concrete foundation to living. Your own moral boundary is what a person follows to retain a healthy sense of self value. Nothing can grow self worth faster than living within your own moral boundaries and forgiving yourself of past transgressions.
So the secret to having self value is the living within your individual moral boundary. You discover that boundary by understanding that if you feel guilt over something you have crossed that boundary. Forgiving of your self and not repeating the situation is how you maintain self worth.
Once again this requires a person to face themselves and their fears, which all relates to the core barrier of not feeling good enough.
Fear....the lost post
Where do you begin
Fear is truly a an opportunity. It is an opportunity for achievement and accomplishment. It is a catalyst for personal growth. Fear helps establish personal self trust. Self trust is directly related to self-esteem and self-esteem hits us in our core barrier of not feeling as if we are good enough. As with any emotional problem starting at the root of the problem is the key to moving through the problem. The root of a problem is its creation point. In situations where people have yet to conquer their issues around fear working from that creation point ensures a steady progression of growth that is genuine. Before fear can be faced and worked through the creation point has to be discovered, defined and acknowledged.
The deep inner belief of not feeling good enough is what I refer as our "Core Barrier", the creation point. It probably originates from the idea that we are not as good as God. That we are constantly striving to be One as God and failing because of some original sin. It is something deeply engrained in a majority of religious dogmas. If I am right or wrong on this is really of little import because so many people experience the belief that they aren't good enough that where it started is irrelevant. For each individual who feels this way there is a particular belief that suits their own set of insecurities. For example; I am broken, I don't count, I am invisible, I am stupid, not smart enough, ugly, unwanted, I feel abandoned, I am a screw up, I am unlovable. This belief develops in early childhood and literally drives a person through their life and can be found at the root of all their upsets and successes. It becomes part of the negative/positive self-talk that runs through their minds in any emotional or life situation. It can literally define who a person is and how they react to everything in their lives.
The discovery of the Core Barrier is the first step towards the resolution of life issues. In relating that barrier to all the circumstances of a persons life a pattern becomes apparent. How does one discover their own personal barrier? Thinking about how they felt in a given situation, good or bad, will lead a person to their own personal statement of feeling worthy or unworthy. Spending a week or so of constantly asking yourself WHAT am I feeling and WHY am I feeling it will produce some surprising truths about yourself. This is not an exercise where a person is busy blaming their emotions on outside people or situations, its purely focused on just YOUR emotions. Outside occurrences are just opportunities for a person to look at themselves. This could also be called taking the "first step of self-accountability".
It is my belief after thousands of hours helping people discover themselves that no matter how awake and aware a person may think they are if they have not yet discovered, understood, and implemented this concept in their lives they will never reach that state of fearless empowerment they seek. Instead of manifesting their desires they will continue to attract situations into their lives that are opportunities for them to learn this lesson, and as we all know the lessons get harder and harder till we finally get it.
This is step one of learning about moving through fear.